"Of course, my father had used to hit me, but he did that to get me back on the right path. I do not see here any correlation with the failure of my married life" said Georges, a prominent surgeon.
The Georges’ story is not exceptional. Many people have trouble in their relationships with parents to have a major impact on their lives.
Our parent plant in us mental and emotional seeds that grow at the same time as we do. In some families these seeds are love, respect, and independence. But in others, these seeds are fear, guilt, or liability.
All parents have occasional disabilities, they are only human. Most children thrive if they receive their content of love and understanding.
Abusive parents impose trauma, abuse, critical attitude to their children and most of the time they continue to behave so even if children have become adults. Children of abusive parents feel consciously or unconsciously guilty of abuse from their parents. This leads to lack of confidence in adulthood and poor self-esteem.